When Ties Break/A Memoir About How to Thrive After Loss
GENRE
BIOGRAPHICAL DRAMA FAMILY MEMOIR RELIGIOUS
Core Theme
RELIGION AND LOSS
TIME PERIOD
20th Century (multiple decades)
COMPARABLE TITLES
FINDING GOD IN HARD TIMES
CHARACTER LIST
• MARGARET: 1-55. JOURNEY, STRONG, ADAPTABLE, SURVIVOR
• FRED: 50S, FIRST HUSBAND, MANIPULATIVE
• JEFF: 60S 2ND HUSBAND, SELFISH
• JASON: 50S 3RD HUSBAND, OBLIVIOUS, LIAR
• BECKY: EARLY 20S DAUGHTER, RECOVERING ADDICT
• ANDREW: MID 20S SON, CHURCH MINISTER
Logline
Divorce, abuse, abortion, excommunication, homelessness, bankruptcy, sibling rivalry, adultery, low self-esteem,death and depression. What makes this story different, exceptional, and inspirational is that the author has lived through each of these challenging, sometimes terrifying problems.
Target Audiences
Age: 18-34,35-54,55+
Target Gender: Female Leaning,Universal
Setting
USA, mostly in the South
Based on a True Story
Yes
Publishing Details
Status: Yes: with a Publisher
Publisher: Tate Publishing
Year Published: 2010
Starting Description
The day of my father's funeral, my brother expelled me from the family as my other family members stood by and did nothing. He was right about one thing. I had made many bad choices for which I would pay dearly.
Ending Description
I learned to let go, to stop asking God why bad things happened to good people, to be grateful, to not just survive but to thrive. If I held on too tightly to what I'd lost, I'd lose the opportunity to make better choices. I let go of those who rejected me and embraced those who loved me as I was.
Group Specific
Information not completed
Hard Copy Available
No
ISBN
978-1-61663-265-6
Mature Audience Themes
Information not completed
Plot - Other Elements
Happy Ending,Philosophical Questions
Plot - Premise
Internal Journey/Rebirth
Main Character Details
Name: Margaret
Age: Birth to age 55
Gender: Female
Role: Emotional
Key Traits: Desperate,Faithful,Educated,Honorable,Insecure,Naive,Underdog,Modest,Obedient,Religious,Selfless,Strong Moral Code,Adventurous
Additional Character Details
Name: Family members, husbands, friends, etc
Age: birth to death
Gender: Other
Role: Antagonist
Key Traits: Aggressive,Complex,Crazy,Greedy,Masculine,Narcisstic,Religious,Power Hungry,Outspoken,Sarcastic,Secretive,Manipulative,Unapologetic
Additional Character Details
Name: See previous question
Age: See previous question
Gender: Other
Role: antagonist
Key Traits: Aggressive,Complex,Crazy,Criminal,Desperate,Greedy,Insecure,Leader,Masculine,Narcisstic,Religious,Blunt,Power Hungry,Outspoken,Skillful,Sarcastic,Secretive,Manipulative,Unapologetic
Additional Character Details
The author has not yet written this
Brief
The youngest child of a preacher, Margaret grew up with the glory of God always at her side. After becoming a mother, surviving domestic abuse and several unsuccessful marriages, she realizes that her family and God are her greatest sources of strength. She suffers insecurity, bankruptcy and loss, but her faith in the almighty never wavers, and she attributes her success to her strong sense of belief.
What We Liked
- The story has a strong sense of faith in the unknown. Margaret’s life is hard and full of misfortune, but she never wavers in her belief that God will look after her. There is a lot to be said about a character who is willing to make such sacrifices for herself and her children. This is a story of strength and growth as Margaret overcomes obstacles time and time again just to find her happiness.
- For television this would make a strong addition to a Lifetime Original or some other spotlight series. With its strong sense of faith and unending will to move on, Margaret has a copious list of failures and obstacles that could play out. The background characters certainly need some more dimensions as they are a bit flat from her first person POV. That being said, the story has a happy ending with plenty of moral lessons baked within.
- Key points: Religion, tragedy, loss, strength, happy resolution.
Synopsis
The story opens with Margaret at her father’s funeral where her older brother excommunicates her from the family and forbids her from coming home to see her mother or sister. Margaret then begins the tale of her life as the youngest of four in a staunch Christian family. She grows up different than her siblings and often resented for the favoritism she received as the youngest child. She spent her childhood traveling around the east coast, mostly in the Carolina’s, until she left her family to get married at eighteen.
Her first husband was emotionally and physically abusive, but after having two kids and not enough money, she found it difficult to leave. She accumulated strength until her husband left and a few years after her divorce. Her favorite sister Pam died of cancer and she decides to go to college in North Carolina where she started dating her professor.
A man nearly thirty years her senior, their lives quickly became incompatible and she gets straddled with the debt of his bad investments and their house which she can no longer afford. Her and her two kids get split up so they can avoid homelessness. Her son has strong ties to the church, but her daughter strays and begins a life of substance abuse and poor performance at school.
A few years of hard work go by. Her faith is still very strong as she tries to help her daughter get clean several times, and eventually moves to St. Louis to be with a man she met while traveling for work. He has a daughter and when they get married, Margaret accepts the daughter into her life as best she can.
Things are alright for a year or two, but she finds herself struggling to make things work as she has to work remotely in Washington DC. After about five years of marriage, her brother has a sudden heart attack and her mother is quite ill. She travels back to North Carolina to see her mother, but not after her brother dies unexpectedly and their fighting is never resolved.
Margaret goes on without her third husband for some time, writing about her life and trying to stay close to her faith. She finds the opportunity to travel after getting a job in California, and after some time is able to shed the death that has plagued her life. Eventually she divorces her third husband and makes peace with her past as she spends time with her aging mother and four grandchildren.